I hope this site has brought you some comfort at this devastating time. It may (or may not) surprise you to learn that I get an awful of lot of rubbish hurled at me for running this site. I'm not sure why, because I've spent my whole life basically trying to help people, in all sorts of small ways, but basically to prevent them from ever feeling like I have had to throughout my life. I'm not sure why that makes me unpopular with certain people, or why it makes me a potential target, but it does.
Not that that matters to me, you understand. I think when terrible things happen to you in life you can choose to go one of two ways. You always get angry, that just comes with the territory, but then you have a choice. You can either carry the terribleness on and treat everyone you meet after that badly, because you've suffered and you want them to do the same, or you can resolve to let the terribleness end with you and to try and make sure that no one ever feels the way you have, at least not whilst you can do something to change it.
I chose the latter obviously, not that it was much of a choice, because in truth I was just built this way. But it troubles me that some may not find the help I want them to find. I know many of you write to me and tell me how reading the experiences of others has helped you, and I really appreciate that, it helps to keep me going and I am going to apologise now to anyone who wrote and that I never managed to write back to. Being ill for many years meant some things just got lost along with the years of my life that disappeared too. It totally destroyed my confidence, not that I had an abundance to begin with, and although I am gradually working my way back slowly to the person I was, it always helps to be reminded that the little you can do does make a difference. But this isn't really about me, I've always believed that there is value in shared experience, and if anything I have done has helped you I would really like that knowledge to help others.
With this in mind I am writing this page to ask you to share how this site has helped you. I want to build a page of feedback, testimonials, praise for the site, call it what you will but essentially a page that will give people confidence that reading the experiences of others, whether it be via pet loss stories, tributes, diaries, poems or just my pages on how grief feels, can and does actually help. I want to encourage people to read others experiences and continue to be encouraged to share their own, knowing that the value of this is twofold for everyone.
Click below to see contributions from other visitors to this page...
Thank you
This site has brought me such a greater understood what I am experiencing. I cannot thank you enough.
Thank You. You have helped me.
Foxx is my best friend. He passed away last night in my arms. I had him for nearly 12 years. From a tiny 2 pound Pomeranian puppy at 8 weeks, to a bouncy, …
My Story About Using Pet Loss Matters
I was so pleased to see my story still posted here from a few years back! I just was trying to blog my recent feelings about the loss of our beloved cat, …
A Lot of Good Advice and Comfort Here
I lost my beloved dog Max in 2011. He was 14 years old, my first dog I've ever had. As I was a younger adult when I got him from puppy stage, this hit …
Thank you
Thanks so much for having this wonderful site as a lot of people don't understand what it's like losing a furry friend. I miss my cat so much whom I lost …
Anger and validation - Thank you so much!
I lost my sweet little hedgehog, Wednesday (a.k.a. Little Miss Wee) early on Saturday morning. I went through a few days of being horribly grief-stricken, …
Thank you for creating this comfort zone
Grieving my beloved cat companion Nanny has been so incredibly sad and painful. As humans we inherently learn throughout life how to process the experience …
Thank You
I just wanted to say thank you for this site! I lost my very loved, very spoiled cat of 13 years yesterday morning quite unexpectedly, and have been seemingly …
OMG You Are A Wonderful Human Being!!!!!
Without you I could never have gotten through the loss of my doggies....
You are TRULY a GODSEND!!!!
With Love....
Theresa xxxxxxxxxxx
Thank-You For This Wonderful Site!
Loving animals and having them in your life means that you will have to deal with the loss of them periodically throughout your life. They are on this …
Thank You
Our dog Maggie is peacefully asleep, unaware that this will be her last night in her house. Tomorrow we will take her to the vet where she will be freed …
Waiting Of My 2 Angels
I am very thankful to you that you have given this golden opportunity to express emotions & feelings of dog lovers. Which can never be understood by others. …
Bunny Thank You
I must share my feelings with everyone who is using this site.
It is the best site Bunny has ever created.
I feel closer to my unique Boxer dog Tigger …
Comfort and Peace
When My Rufus left for the bridge 4/15/2012 I was overwhelmed with grief. I didn't know how to go on until I came across this site, pet-loss-matters. I …
Thank You So Much
I lost my pup last night. She was 15 1/2 years old. I adopted her from a shelter when she was 3 months old. So we were together more than 15 years. …
Feedback
This is a wonderful site, it has been a comfort to countless broken hearts.
When I Had Nowhere To Turn...
I lost my best friend a little over a year ago, and it totally devastated me. Some people just could not understand why I could not just get over it. I …
All Consuming Grief
I am dog lover and I have many dogs in my lifetime. The grief of losing them for me is just gut wrenching; especially if they are sick or I have had to …
All My Bridge Babies
I am using this place that you have made available to talk to, remember, and continue loving all my mice ratties my dogs and cats and other fur babies. …
Grateful
Bunny,
It is a beautiful gift to all of us that you share by creating and offering this site despite your illness.
I too know what it's like to deal …
Ms. Peggy O.
This site has been comfort to me in dealing with the loss of my darling Millie (Shih-tzu/Poodle). She was my every-thing and the loss has been devastating. …
Thank you!!
Bunny,
I cannot quite grasp the idea that anyone would have anything but positive words for you in regard to running this site! I lost my Annie cat …