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'My Cat Fern'
by: dea

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But then, as if losing her wasn't bad enough, a couple days later I contacted the 'friend' I had gotten my girls (Samantha & Pooh Butt they are sisters) from, to tell him what had happened, totally expecting that he would comfort me & understand my loss. But this was what he said to me instead : 'Sorry to hear about Sammy but what was she doing outside in the first place? I'm not trying to be unsympathetic, but my heart goes out to the innocent and dependent. You know me. If you have a problem keeping the cats inside and safe, please let me know and I will come by and pick up the other one(s); no drama, no rebukes, just my sense of protection as I see necessary.' Lee

I haven't talked to him since...

So I think you made the right decision for you & her. Unless you are willing to play with them more to keep them active, I think it's cruel to keep them inside & bored. That guy has 6 cats in a small apartment & he doesn't play with them ~ they always looked so sad when I saw them.

Take care

Dea
'My Cat Fern'
by: dea

Jessica ~

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I suppose you will find people on both sides of indoor/outdoor cat issue. as her mom, it was your decision to make. I don't think it was neglect anymore than someone who decides to keep a cat indoors is.

My 3 cats (
Samantha, Pooh Butt & Rocco) were raised in an apartment in Los Angeles ~ where I didn't let them out for a year & a half. Then in March of 2012, we moved to a house. I knew before we moved that once they saw there was an outside, that they would stop at nothing to get there and it terrified me!!

Since I hadn't planned on them ever going outside, I never taught them and they had no need to learn to be afraid out there. They had never seen the street or a car or other animals (the first time my Samantha saw a dog, she charged at it!!) I left my window screen open, so they could go in & out but for the first 2 or 3 months I would check on them every 10 or 15 minutes. Every time I heard a car go by or heard a dog bark, my heart would stop and I would run out to check on them.

One night, I decided to go out (which I NEVER did) with a friend. When I left that night, I told each of my babies (as I always did, even if I went to the store) 'I'll be back, be good, be safe & I love you.' When I got home early the next morning, my brother told me something had happened to one of my cats. I asked 'which one?' & he said 'Samantha'. Thinking she had been hit by a car or attacked by the neighbor's dogs or something (but thinking she would be ok), I asked 'What happened?' he said ~ 'Dad found her in the driveway this morning, she's dead . . .'

I can't tell you what that did to me ~ I love my other 2 cats very much but Sammy was my world, Sammy was my heart, Sammy was my purpose for living & in the blink of an eye, after only 2 short years ~ she was gone. My brother later told me, she hadn't been hit by a car or attacked. there were no injuries, no blood, nothing, she looked like she was sleeping. Like she died in mid step.

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You were right
by: Anonymous

Hi, I know exactly how you feel. My girl was hit by a car, she is alive but her hind legs are dodgy as she suffered a spinal injury. She does not go out on her own now, we have to take her out in a harness. She seems to have taken quite well to being a house cat, but 8 do feel guilty that she is unable to feel the excitement of the outdoors. If she went out now, she wouldn't be able to run away from foxes, dogs etc.

I was always worried about her until she came in, but I thought it was better to have a short and happy life rather than a long miserable life, and if my girl was ok I would still let her out, even though I dreaded it, and couldn't rest until she was back in.

You were not being selfish, you were thinking of your girl, and her happiness. Take care.
Fern
by: jean

Fern was loved beyond words, so look back at the positive things about her. When I lost my little pet rat Rolo I felt I could have done so many things differently, you have done no wrong you obeyed her instincts just as she badly wanted too.

Love, Jean xxx

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